If Actions Could Talk: What Would Yours Say About You?
Ever watched a movie where the characters say one thing, but the subtitles tell a completely different story? That’s us. We’re the main character, saying, “I’m over it,” while our actions the subtitles say, “Still stalking their Instagram at 1 a.m.”
If your actions could talk, they’d probably sigh dramatically and say, “Really? That’s what we’re telling people now?”
The thing is, we all do this. We say what we hope is true. What sounds right. What we want to believe about ourselves.
“I’m calm and unbothered,” we say just moments before rage blocking three people, throwing our phone on the couch, then crawling back to unblock them 10 minutes later like it never happened.
“I’m working on myself,” we declare as we binge six hours of motivational reels, save a bunch of inspiring quotes, and successfully ignore our actual therapist’s homework.
“I value honesty in relationships,” we announce while simultaneously ghosting someone we’ve been emotionally entangled with for three years because having one uncomfortable conversation felt… inconvenient.
See the pattern? Our words are trying to tell one story, but our actions? They’ve already written another and spoiler: it’s usually more accurate.
This isn’t a flaw. It’s just human. We’re not always aware of the disconnect between what we say and what we do. Words come from intention. Actions come from beliefs, fears, and habits we may not even notice. And actions? They don’t lie. They reveal where we’re stuck, what we’re avoiding, or what we deep down believe about ourselves and the world.
If actions could talk, they’d spill the tea.
They’d say: “We’re avoiding discomfort by ghosting.”
“We’re clinging to control because uncertainty feels terrifying.”
“We’re performing confidence while quietly needing approval.”
And honestly, that’s okay. Because sometimes we need to hear it straight not from our friends, or therapists, but from our own behavior.
Not to shame ourselves, but to understand ourselves better. Because that’s where growth begins.
So, the next time you find yourself saying one thing and doing another, pause. Ask: “If my actions had a voice right now… what would they say I believe?”
(It helps if you imagine them with a sarcastic tone maybe even British.)
Because you can journal, affirm, and vision board your way into change all you want, but in the end, it’s your actions that quietly or not-so quietly speak for you. And they’re often far more honest than the words you’ve been rehearsing.
So go ahead, say what you want. But also… check your screen time, your reactions, your late night habits, and that playlist you swore you deleted. That’s where the real story lives.
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