A thought provoking dive into relationship dynamics while breaking the RED Flag-GREEN Flag code :
Relationship with all its complexities remains a subject of fascination for centuries. Understanding the subtle cues not only help us to be aware of potential danger but to also embrace the positive attributes. Red and Green flags, is a subject that deeply resonates with individuals seeking meaningful connections. Red flags and green flags are indeed a great way to help an individual to get a foresight for the warning bells and positive cues coming their way.
While engaging with the fellow participants during one of the the live session, I realize how these terms have been so simpler for all of us to follow. To be professionally active on social media has always been challenging for me. When I finally took a leap into this fast paced ever changing platform, I was surprised to see how these terms have been coined casually with misleading information about the same.
People have a rule book ready and are categorizing their partner’s behavior into two buckets with their guards are up 24/7.
In the hindsight what we are losing is the real essence of everyday efforts that is required to make any relationship successful. As what Paul Sauelson once said “Investing in stock market should be like watching paint dry or watching the grass grow.” This says it all that it is those small little investments everyday that give long term benefits.
Red flag is not forgetting your partner’s birthday but instead forgetting to put in those small tiny daily efforts. Green flag is not creating a special birthday space but creating a space for your partner to be vulnerable.
Acknowledging, providing comfort and empathy, sharing values and goals are the real pillars for any relationship. These cannot be simply segregated into two extremes of red and green but rather in shades of red and green. Hence on some days your relationship may look like the dark shade of red and light green on another. It’s never going to be perfect shade on any given day!
Suman Khanna
Counselling Psychologist,
Founder Mind Unwind
